Helping Children VIEW Their Anger
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Helping Children VIEW Their Anger
by Ron Huxley
by Ron Huxley
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Do you struggle with a child that is angry? Dont know what to do to
decrease his or her aggressive behavior? Here is an easy four step
strategy to help you help your child can some insight and some
redirection to their anger problem:
Chronically angry children often have trouble gaining insight into
their aggression. This can be due to immaturity or stubborn
defensiveness. One way for parents and teachers to help angry
children understand and cope with their anger is to use the acronym
V.I.E.W.
V stands for "validate." Whatever the reasons for a childs anger,
validate the right to feel what they feel without condoning any
innappropriate behavior. Anger is a natural emotion. A child who
must squash angry feelings will only find them to rise up even
stronger next time.
I stands for "investigate." Anger is rarely a solitary emotion.
Sadness, grief, hurt, or fear are often silent lurkers behind anger.
Ineffective efforts to quench anger may be due to the fact that
other emotions are fueling its fire. Ask questions about what lead
up to the childs anger and investigate angers accomplices. Label
them for what they are without judgement.
E stands for "expression." If anger is a natural emotion and other
feelings can accompany it, then encourage a child to express all of
their emotions clearly and without hurting self or others. Allow the
child to voice their sadness. Let fear be released into
conversation. Redirect children to negotiate instead of fighting.
Model how this is done.
W stands for "working." Chronic anger doesnt always go away
quickly. Be patient and continue working the other steps in this
acronym. Utilize various resources in the community to assist your
childs anger management. If one approach doesnt work, try another
one but keep working at it faithfully. And most importantly,
practice what you preach!
Parents and teachers can get the help they need to manage homes and
classrooms with the anger power tools of the AngerToolboxs ANGER
SMART Club. It is simple, convenient, and inexpensive. Join our
exclusive ANGER SMART Club today and get an online consult with Ron
Huxley, founder of the AngerToolbox.com for no extra charge. JOIN US
at
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for more information.
