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How to utilize criticism Five silver tipsHow to utilize criticism Five silver tipsby kannan balakrishnanWhen Rekha joined our college she was very sensitive to criticism, she would cry and get upset when the slightest insult or criticism was encountered from her teachers or classmates. Many of us spend a lot of worrying over things told about us by others. Many relations are broken because of such unwanted comments. But criticism is like cow dung. Seen from the proper perspective, it can be highly useful and some times it can be used as a tool. In this short exposure five such applications are elaborated. I Criticism help you retrospect If somebody tells something bad about your behavior, the first thing that may come to your mind is anger or dislike. But if you set aside this emotional barrier and look at the facts, you may find that there is some element of truth in the comment. In some other cases you may discover that your actions and words are interpreted in the wrong way. This gives you an opportunity to modify your behavior or adopt your actions for better life. II They can be used as a tool for understanding people Looking at comment from a different angle, one may deduce the real intention of the commenter,the hidden agenda for which he makes the comment. Once I had a friend who used to comment that I was a miser. I would get emotional and spend money on a treat. Later I recognized that his aim was precisely this. He was a miser and used this tool to make others spend more,without touching his pocket. III They give you resistance When she left the course, Rekha could withstand almost anything.She could simply say "go to hell" to her critics. What happened? I wondered. Talking to her I gathered that continuous exposure to comments has slowly made her bold and resistant to them. Similarly if you live in a world of attacks, you will develop your personality with the knowledge of how to takle them. IV They give you inspiration If somebody says to me "I am sure that you do not have the ability to do that " the comment is likely to inspire me to do that . Adverse comments regarding your inability to do something with boost your sprit and help you achieve things. In the history these are enough examples of this. V They show that you are doing something useful Nobody throws a stone at a fruitless tree. So if somebody criticize your deeds , it means that you are doing something useful. Looking through this perspectives you may like criticism and bad comments or at least not hate them Article Source: http://www.articlecube.com |